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From: ciaraldi@rochester.UUCP (Mike Ciaraldi)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Later lovers
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Date: Wed, 16-Nov-83 21:10:51 EST
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Posted: Wed Nov 16 21:10:51 1983
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From: Mike Ciaraldi  <ciaraldi>
Someone in the "net.abby" discussion mentioned meeting an old
boy/girlfriend and the person he/she is now involved with,
and saying "he/she left me for THAT?" (paraphrased, but you
get the idea).

Being one of the sensitive, tactful, and caring people
(heh, heh) that populate this newsgroup, no one of us
would ever say that out loud, but I for one have
often thought this.  Sometimes I find out later that
the other relationship has collapsed, and can't help
feeling "she got what she deserved".

Turning serious, there was really only one
woman with whom I split up, later met her new lover,
and thought, "Wow, they really seem to care for
each other and be good for each other." I had this
feeling of having left her in good hands, and since
I still cared what happened to her, I was glad that
things had worked out for her. No kidding, I
really did.
The strange thing was that her new lover was another woman.
I don't think that really made a difference
(i.e. it was not that I really didn't think of her
as a threat), but I can't help wondering.
If people are interested I could go into more detail,
but I hope this will serve to spark some discussion
on what happens when you meet your ex-lover's lover.