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Subject: Infidelity etc. (retransmission of lost article)
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Date: Thu, 17-Nov-83 13:22:08 EST
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Posted: Thu Nov 17 13:22:08 1983
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Hmm...when my very first boyfriend (when I was still a dazed, funny-looking
15-year-old amazed that anyone could ever love *me*) took off to visit his
sister in Santa Cruz and slept with a girl he just met (for the first
time, incidentally - we were both virgins) I was a little sad, mostly
because I had wanted us to share our first time together.  But we talked
long and hard about it and - well, John did seem to "mess around" a lot,
but how can I explain this?  He had a lot of hangups.   I think he
needed it; needed to prove something to himself.  In any case, I knew he
loved me; and loves me still, though we're many miles and years apart 
now - I just heard from him the other day and we're stil very very
close.  I'm not sure this kind of tolerance can or should apply to
everyone.  Mostly I'm an advocate of *talking it out* and finding out
just *why* it was that the person felt they needed to seek love outside
of the relationship.   After all, maybe it's indicative of a
problem...which could be mended.  I hate to give up a relationship!!!

Lady Arwen