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From: za16ao@sdccsu3.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Ex-lover of Current Lover etc.
Message-ID: <1311@sdccsu3.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 21-Nov-83 08:58:41 EST
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Posted: Mon Nov 21 08:58:41 1983
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I first met my current love's ex-girlfriend when he and I had only been
going out for a month (talk about bad timing) and things between us were
far from stable.  I just assumed he would go back to her once she
returned to town (she'd been living in San Francisco for a couple years)
and so I backed off - I couldn't have been more wrong.  These days when
we see her or I see her I'm polite and friendly - after all, heck, she
had good taste, right? - but I decline all invitations to visit her
jacuzzi, come over for dinner, etc. - I don't think that would really be
fair to her.  I tell Carl to go over by himself (which he does), that
being a good way for them to chat and catch up, (after all they are
still friends!) but I remain just a bit distant.  Perhaps I shouldn't.

I remember my first boyfriend's ex-girlfriends treated me similarly, and
I always wished they would be friendlier.  But it's a defense mechanism
(I'm not sure who they're defending who against), I guess...

Arwen
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        -=< Lady Arwen >=-

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