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From: davidk@dartvax.UUCP (David C. Kovar)
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Subject: Re: Ex-lover of Current Lover etc.
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Date: Mon, 21-Nov-83 23:34:33 EST
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Posted: Mon Nov 21 23:34:33 1983
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I've not run into the ex-lover of a current lover, but I have been in
the middle of such a meeting. I can assure you that it is rarely
comfortable for any of the parties. If no relationships had existed
we all would have been very good friends, as it was things were very
strung out. This may seem like an obvious statement, but I guess I was
hoping that it would not be the case. 
  The best suggestion that I have for such meetings is to downplay ANY
forms of intimacy with either person. This may only make things bearable,
but at least it will hopefully keep searing jelousies from flaring. In
my case permitted me to keep up some form of contact with my ex-girlfriend
without having to deal with "How could you go out with such a bitch??"
interferences.
  All in all, I do not think that there is any way that the average person
would be comfortable in such a situation, it is not human nature.

David C. Kovar      HB 3140  Dartmouth College  Hanover NH  03755
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P.S. Sorry if this signature shows up twice, I was trying something.
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David C. Kovar      HB 3140  Dartmouth College  Hanover NH  03755
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