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From: neal@denelcor.UUCP (Neal Weidenhofer)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What Is Single
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Date: Fri, 25-Nov-83 21:52:25 EST
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Posted: Fri Nov 25 21:52:25 1983
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	Greg, I'm sorry but I don't agree for a number of reasons:
	
	A love relationship (or lack of one) is a very big thing in 
anyone's life--especially, it seems, singles.  I enjoy reading about
other people's relationships to the extent that they are willing to
share.

	A closely related point is that a love relationship is a very
different thing for a single person than it is if you're married.  I've
tried both (I don't know whether you have or not).  I think your
statement:

>...People involved with a love
>relationship may be, in some cases, legally single, but certainly their
>lifestyle more closely resembles married people's than it does mine, or
>anyone else who is really SINGLE. 

is totally incorrect (no flame intended).

	When people tell you how easy it is to find a girlfriend, I think
they are trying to answer your question about what to do about being
lonely--it IS incredibly easy--and nearly impossible to tell anyone how
to do.  I met my most recent girlfriend behind the desk at a library when
I went in to check out some books, would that work for you? it probably
wouldn't have worked for me if there had been someone else working the
desk that day.

	I'm sure you've heard all of the standard advice a hundred times
"Be yourself", "Do the things that you like to do--if you don't like X
then someone you meet at X is not likely to be a good match:  X in {bars,
baseball games, museums, artgalleries, ...}", "Keep your eyes open &
pay attention to people", etc., etc., etc.  It DOES work and there really
isn't much more that one person can say that would apply to anyone else.

	The main thing for me, incidentally, was finding out that it was
possible for me.  Hearing lots of people tell me how easy it was was
painful but helpful in that way.

	I really would like to see more of the types of articles that you
were asking for, however.  How about sharing some of your experiences?

	I'd also be willing to see subgroups formed.  It's probably not
necessary though, there's only been < 100 articles on this one.

	I apologize if anything I said sounded like a flame--I'd like to
see a dialogue on this--maybe I'M the one that's off base.

			Regards,
				Neal Weidenhofer
				Denelcor, Inc.
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