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From: wls@astrovax.UUCP (William L. Sebok)
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Subject: Re: (reply to lsc)
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Date: Mon, 28-Nov-83 18:40:34 EST
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Posted: Mon Nov 28 18:40:34 1983
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Though I have been reading this group for a while, this is my first posting
here. This is the first time I've felt I had anything to add:

> I have men who are pals who complain about the traumas of getting up the 
> nerve to ask someone out and how it's always the man who has to go to the 
> effort and who say how nice it would be to be asked out 
> sometime.  I've watched some those same men turn weird when asked out by a
> woman (not me, even).  I wonder if it isn't more frightening to be the one
> asked out, to have the situation out of your control (she buys the tickets,
> she drives the car).  Any guys done any soul-searching about this?

Here I can only speak for myself.  It mostly depends on how I felt about the
woman anyway.  It would be a really pleasant surprise if a woman in whom I was
interested, with whom I was toying with the idea of asking out, if she beat me
to it.  If another woman asked me out it is less clear how I would feel.  I
doubt it is very much different than a woman's reaction to being asked out
by a man.
  On the other hand the fact that a particular woman has asked me out is
likely to positively influence how I feel toward her.  In fact, number one
on the list of what attracts me to a particular women is whether she has any
interest in me.
--- Bill
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Bill Sebok	Princeton Univ. Astrophysics
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