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From: llf@houxz.UUCP (L.FENG)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: control
Message-ID: <610@houxz.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 1-Dec-83 09:56:52 EST
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Posted: Thu Dec  1 09:56:52 1983
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I disagree with Paul.  I would prefer to ask the guys out.  I feel that I have
more control that way.  If I ask and get turned down, it doesn't seem to bother
me.  I guess I figure it doesn't matter much.  They could be busy, have a MOTAS
somewheres, not have the same interests, or simply not interested.  I don't 
find it traumatic.  AND, I can choose what we'll do, where we'll go, and how
I want things to work out.  However, I have a hard time turning people down.  
I always feel bad when someone asks me out and I can't or don't want to go.  
Because I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings and it IS flattering to be 
asked.  However, then I FEEL like I have no control over how the evening will
turn out.  

It's not the asking.  It's the worrying about what happens after accepting 
that always gets to me.

But then again, I never ask people that aren't friends first.