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From: sdh@rabbit.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: a commentary
Message-ID: <2245@rabbit.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 4-Dec-83 00:40:11 EST
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Posted: Sun Dec  4 00:40:11 1983
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This is my first submission to net.singles. I am probably far from qualified
to submit since I'm still a spry youth of 17. I feel, however, that my
observations may be useful for those who have forgotten what's its like to
be my age. Also from what I've read, it seems that nothing is different
on the very basic level.

First, the subject of meeting MOTAS: This has been a major problem for me. I
find little difficulty in making lasting friendships. i seem to attract and
be attracted to people of similar backgrounds/interests very easily. Therin
lies the problem: I want a little more out of a relationship, and I felt
inadequate seeing blatant PDOA's in my school (public display of affection).

I then started aking girls out, and failed miserably. The White Sox of days
gone by had a far better record than me.

I then crawled into a shell of despair etc. for quite some time although
my friends were supportive.

I discovered that I was attracted to one of my friends who was in two of my
classes, but I was afraid to make a move of any sort, lest I strike out AND
lose a friend, thus I remained aloof -admiring from afar. To my surprise
and elation I found that she had almost the exact feelings for me. 
We went places together, but always with several other people. The one time
strike that, first time we were alone that I recall was when she was 
dropping people off from a film. I am glad I ignored all the what if's that
were going through my head, and kissed her. Although our physical 
relationship never got further than hand-holding and an occaision kiss, I
am completely satisfied, mainly because we are close friends and are able
to share ideas and thoughts in intelligent conversation, not like the
couples I used to be jealous of that are surgically attatched at the mouth.
We are both gaining a great deal of self-knowledge and personal growth from
our relationship, which I fell is far more important in life and the
general scheme of things than a meaningless PDOA.

Probably, the thing that attracts me most to her is her smile. Not the
actual appearance,  but the fact that she smiles often and sincerely. So
this shows me that she is honest, and I'm glad I'm sharing happiness with
her.

Thanks for bearing with me.

write if you get work, and hang by your thumbs.
Steve Hawley

PS please send mail: flames or otherwise. my mailbox has been far too empty.