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From: spaf@gatech.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: some more topics
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Date: Tue, 6-Dec-83 10:21:19 EST
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Posted: Tue Dec  6 10:21:19 1983
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I thought I'd throw out another couple of potential topics for people
to comment on.

In two past relationships, I got to know the roommate(s) of the women I
was going out with fairly well.  It usually started out as just talking
on the phone, or chatting when I was visiting, but eventually got to
the point where they would go with us when we went someplace, or I'd
stop over and chat while waiting for my ladyfriend to arrive.  Similar
situation with one woman's sister.  Now, the interesting part occurred
when the relationships broke up -- both with a fair amount of trauma.
In both cases, I have kept in contact with the former roommates more
than their former roommates (my ex's).  In both cases, these were
roommates of 3 or 4 years standing before the split and they drifted
apart.

Now part of that may be due to the fact that the roommates felt I was
treated badly in these situations, although I really wasn't trying to
have anyone choose up sides.  And it certainly was not due to any
possible romantic inclinations (with the roommates) -- most of the
women invloved were engaged or otherwise firmly attached, and I was not
interested.  Still, it strikes me as unusual.  Have any of you been in
a similar situation, on either side?  Comments?



Second question:  I was just listening to the new Yes album, and the
chorus on one song includes the lines: "...owner of a lonely heart.
It's much better than ...owner of a broken heart."

I'm also reminded of the saying "It's much better to have loved and
lost than never loved at all."

Is it?  A lot of people writing to this newgroup express loss and
bitterness, and many express joy and hope.  Maybe it's easy to be
cheerful when things are going well (especially if you're involved in
another relationship), and easy to be bitter when things aren't going
well.  I know that is the case for me.

What I'm asking is for anyone interested to think deeply about a love
lost -- really bring it back into your mind and heart.  Then tell us,
would you rather that it had never happened?  Why or why not? Comments?

-- 
Off the Wall of Gene Spafford
School of ICS, Georgia Tech, Atlanta GA 30332
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