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From: davidk@dartvax.UUCP (David C. Kovar)
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Subject: "... better not to have loved at all."
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Date: Wed, 7-Dec-83 22:14:35 EST
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Posted: Wed Dec  7 22:14:35 1983
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I am a firm believer in "It is better to have loved and lost than to
have never loved at all." This past spring I broke up with a young 
lady whom I had been seeing for three years, in fact, the first
person I ever went out with. The breakup was painful, particularly
so as we were confined to a small campus and my current girlfriend
was also on campus. Many other things caused trials and tribulations,
but I would *never* (underlined, italicized, whathave you) give up
those years just because of the pain of the seperation. If I had it
to do over again, I would go right up the the very end, even knowing
it was coming. Now you might argue that this is a special case, and
I would agree, but isn't *any* relationship a "special case"? I
would make exception for a relationship that was rocky from the
start and stayed that way, except that it too was a learning experience
and one does not pass up learning experiences. Or at least I do not.
Try something once, if you don't like it you at least know that.
If you don't try it, you'll never really know.

	Now, if we are talking about "If you love something,
let it go. If it comes back to you, it's yours and if it does
not, it never was", then I have a completely different standpoint.
That is a load of rubbish. First off, no person can be "yours".
I'll grant the author poetic license I suppose. But, if you spend
two loving years with someone and are forced apart or decide to
seperate, you were "each others" for that period of time, so
"it never was" does not apply. (I hope I'm remebering the
quote right, I don't want to have to pull a "Oh. Never mind."
stunt.) If they do come back, it is because they could not find
anyone better, or they could but felt some loyalty to you, or ....
If they did not, the opposites are probably true. As for "... hunting
it down and killing it.", that is again rubbish. Leave it alone,
it's over. The first bite of revenge may be sweet, but it leaves
one hell of a bitter after taste.

	There are several other topics I should address, but this
is long enough as is. Peace, love, and aerodynamics to all MOTAS,
MOTSS, lovers, losers, loners, marrieds, singles, divorcees, etc.
You get my picture.
-- 
David C. Kovar    
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