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From: murphy@hou2a.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: long-distance relationships
Message-ID: <193@hou2a.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 7-Dec-83 13:12:35 EST
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Posted: Wed Dec  7 13:12:35 1983
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               My experiences (and those of some friends) with long-
               distance relationships have led me to the conclusion
               that they don't work. When one party moves away, there
               begins a period of some months of trying to hold things
               together, which is frustrating, distracting, and hideously
               expensive. Then the inevitable happens: someone moves in
               to occupy the vacant niche. I would guesstimate the life-
               span of long-distance relationships to be on the order of
               6 months. If you are very serious about keeping that some-
               one close to you, you had better do just that--physically.
               Either you move or they move so that you can live in the
               same area. 
               Otherwise, start planning on being "just friends".
               There are undoubtedly those who can make it work on the
               strength of long, wistful phone calls and frantic weekend
               flights, but don't count on being among them.

                                                  Rich Ganns
                                                  hou2a!murphy