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From: laura@utcsstat.UUCP (Laura Creighton)
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Subject: Re: one-sided relationships?
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Date: Fri, 9-Dec-83 06:34:24 EST
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Posted: Fri Dec  9 06:34:24 1983
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I agree with Greg on the one-sided relationships. If you haven't gotten to
"more than a friendship" before so long, I don't think that it is going to be
a "more than a friendship". Obviously, the 'so long' will vary between
individuals, but here is why:

relationships break up. some people know how to do this gracefully. some
people don't. I don't know how it is that you do do these things gracefully.
If you do a real messy job then you end up either:

	hating the other person
	being hated by the other person
or hurting so much whenever you see the other person that you can't stand it.

maybe you will luck out and get a combination of all the three. Now why
take a very good friendship and subject it to the possibility of all that?
Some people are optimistic. I'm *not*. Some people consider it terribly
bad form to consider that this one may end. I'm not one of them. And the
longer I have a very nice friendship, the less likely i am to risk it 
with the terrible goddess of love.  Try to make a lover out of an old friend
and you may wind up with neither.

Laura Creighton
utzoo!utcsstat!laura