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From: jay@rochester.UUCP (Jay Weber)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: long-distance relationships
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Date: Thu, 8-Dec-83 02:05:48 EST
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Posted: Thu Dec  8 02:05:48 1983
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I am part of a long-distance relationship right now, 3.5 months old.
Before we split, we both talked it over and realized that due to the
tenuousness of long-distance romances, (at least by popular opinion)
we should not expect to carry on in the same "coupled" relationship.
However, I can say that our admissions to each other that we understand
that nothing can be taken for granted except our friendship has in some
ways *helped* our relationship.  Now we both feel less pressure to
perform in certain roles and feel free to pursue our own lives, but
we still share very tender moments (albeit expensive).

Though I have not passed the "six month threshold", I feel that long
distance relationships can work if you mutally agree on each other's
independence.  On the other hand, I believe that a long-distance
romance has inherent problems.  Who knows?  Maybe a romance can
become a long-distance relationship and back again.

-Jay Weber {..!seismo!rochester!jay, jay@rochester.arpa}