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From: hok382@houxa.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: long distance relationships
Message-ID: <319@houxa.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 8-Dec-83 08:52:52 EST
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Posted: Thu Dec  8 08:52:52 1983
Date-Received: Sat, 10-Dec-83 01:27:14 EST
Organization: Bell Labs, Holmdel NJ
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My motas and I have been together for about 9 years now, and have
managed to spend about 5 of them in the same place.  It has been
two years together, then a couple apart type of thing...It's
especially difficult now since we are about 3 airplane hops apart
by just about any algorithm, so even tho we finally are earning
enough that the visiting and phoning is financially bearable, 
it's such a pain to commute that it doesn't make sense for less than
four day week-ends, so we've been seeing each other maybe once a 
month.  I think the relationship continues to work because (a)
we both feel we've lucked into something pretty good with each other
and (b)we're both too busy/lazy to start anything new.
   He is hoping to come to NJ when his degree is done, which causes
my major concern since I HAVE seen people manage to piece together
LDR's that fall apart as soon as the couple finally gets together.
I worry that I've gotten used enough to having my own space
(without his stupid cigarette smoke) and eating and sleeping on
my own schedule (and eating what I feel like rather than a
compromise) and so on to shift easily back to living together...
 
             Pat Carstensen