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From: davidk@dartvax.UUCP (David C. Kovar)
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Subject: Re: long-distance relationships
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Date: Thu, 8-Dec-83 14:01:12 EST
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Posted: Thu Dec  8 14:01:12 1983
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	Long distance relationships are just one more thing that
depends on the people involved and how much they want to make it 
work. One of my best friends met a guy at Berkeley in her 
sophmore year. She has since graduated and is now attending law
school somewhere in the Tenesse. Despite temptations, frustrations,
and depressions in both camps they have not found "someone else
to fill the nitch" and are planning on getting married this
June.
	
	My ex-girlfriend took off to go to Smith while I was still
in my senior year of high school. I eventually came to Dartmouth,
but Smith is still two hours away. There were many letters and
$75 phone bills, but the relationship survived and in some ways
grew. In one sense it was *easier* for both of us to be at a
distance: We could work hard during the week with little or no
distractions and look forward to weekends.

	I know of two married couples that live apart during the
week and get together on weekends. In one case they maintain a
home in D.C. and the husband comes home on weekends. In the other
case they maintain two homes and visit each other on alternate
weekends. As far as I can see, both marriages are going strong.

	So, the point is (finally, they say...) that it depends
on the people involved. If your love can't overcome the distances
involved, perhaps it was not meant to be. If you yeild to temptaion
while your significant other is 200 miles away, the same might happen
after you are married and are off on a business trip. Look at yourself
and see if *you* have the strength to hold a distant relationship
together and make it grow.

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