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From: phil@amd70.UUCP (Phil Ngai)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: one-sided relationships?
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Date: Sun, 18-Dec-83 00:48:00 EST
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Posted: Sun Dec 18 00:48:00 1983
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>relationships break up. some people know how to do this gracefully. some
>people don't. I don't know how it is that you do do these things gracefully.
>If you do a real messy job then you end up either:
>
>	hating the other person
>	being hated by the other person
>	or hurting so much whenever you	see the other person that you
>can't stand it.
>
>maybe you will luck out and get a combination of all the three. Now why
>take a very good friendship and subject it to the possibility of all that?

I seem to recall a number of articles posted by people whose best or very
good friends were ex-lovers. My personal experience is consistent with those
articles. It's not easy, but it is possible. If you're saying you don't
think it's worth the risk, that's one approach to the situation. I think
it's worth it sometimes. I wish I were better at judging ahead of time
if it will be worth it.
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Phil Ngai (408) 988-7777 {ucbvax|decwrl|ihnp4|allegra}!amd70!phil