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From: pfautz@inuxa.UUCP (P Pfautz)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: owner of a lonely heart?
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Date: Sun, 11-Dec-83 21:18:15 EST
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Posted: Sun Dec 11 21:18:15 1983
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In response to the question of whether it is better to have loved and lost
than not to have loved at all, I personally would answer yes. Generally,
it depends on HOW you lose. Suddenly single again after 11 years of marriage,
I eventually determined that if I defined any relationship that did not
end in walking off into the sunset together as a bad one, I was going to
be miserable much of the time. My proposed redefinition? A relationahsip is
sucessful if, at minimum, you learn something from it. This benefit carries,
however, the obligation that you return something to the other person.
Sometimes what you learn is not cosmic, perhaps only a new place or
activity. Other times it goes much deeper. This is not to say that losing
doesn't hurt, sometimes to the point of being unbearable. The trick
(which I have only incompletely mastered) is kick experience into line
by application of the proper perspective.
	Non, je ne regret rien.