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From: kenr@aat.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: advice for long distance romantics
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Date: Mon, 12-Dec-83 12:33:38 EST
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Posted: Mon Dec 12 12:33:38 1983
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I really admire the couples that can hold a relationship
together when they've been apart for more than six months.
I can't do it.  A couple of my friends say they are keeping
it together, but a couple of my friends are pathological
liars.  For all I know, that's how they keep the relationship
going.

But seriously, I hope those of you out there with long distance
romances exercise better skill than I did.  I think the secret
is to keep the attention level high, and keep the communication
fun.  It's too easy to whine about the distance, and complain
about the loneliness.  Too much negative, introspective talk
is just deadly.  Keep it fun, that's my advice.  Write more often
than you telephone, that's my further advice.  Letters are fun to
get, and the telephone only encourages moping conversation.

Another important point to remember is that you have to work
toward some kind of resolution of the distance problem.  I don't
even want to think about how much trouble this bit of advice
can be, but it's clear to me that a major stress point in any
long distance relationship is the lack of any kind of plan or
timeframe for the reunion.  The long distance part of the relationship
has to be finite and well bounded.

Later,

Ken Rhodes	 decvax!cbosg!cbosgd!aat!kenr