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From: djo@sdchema.UUCP
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Subject: Re: What is "Trying Too Hard"?
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Date: Thu, 15-Dec-83 10:16:57 EST
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The following are a couple of examples of what I consider
"trying too hard".

Recently a man I had met a few days before called me to ask me
to dinner.  At this point I was interested and wanted to go.
I am very, nay, EXTREMELY busy on weeknights with several
classes I am taking.  He asked me out for the next evening, 
I said I couldn't make it.  He said well how about the next
day lunch (no I work and only get 30 mins. for lunch) well
then how about that night or the next night.  At this point
I felt pressured.  I turned him down for all nights.  He said
in a rejected sort of voice "I get it" and hung up.  Sigh.
If, when I first said no, he would have asked me when I had a
free evening OR asked me if I even wanted to go out we might have
gotten somewhere.  As it was he felt rejected, I felt
unhappy, and we never got a chance to communicate properly.

The next example is something Bob P. brought up in his article.
Well Bob, I can't tell you WHY but you are correct, buying
flowers (at least in my case) is a complete turn off.  I do not
like it, especially having them delivered at work.  It just 
makes me groan.  I'm talking about flowers from a florist.
If someone picks me some wildflowers or a rose from their garden
I love that.  Or if a person buys me a single flower and brings
it to me in person, that's nice too.  Those things stike me as
romantic.  I'm not really sure why I don't like the other.  I guess it's
that anyone can BUY flowers but it takes a special person to pick
a daisy and think of me.  

This article has become long enough.  I submitted this for
the men out there to give you an example of how at least one
woman thinks.

Happy Holidays, Denise {ucbvax,philabs}sdcsvax!sdchema!djo