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From: ariels@orca.UUCP (Ariel Shattan)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What is "Trying Too Hard"?
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Date: Mon, 19-Dec-83 14:13:41 EST
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Posted: Mon Dec 19 14:13:41 1983
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Denise, 

You say

"The next example is something Bob P. brought up in his article.
Well Bob, I can't tell you WHY but you are correct, buying
flowers (at least in my case) is a complete turn off.  I do not
like it, especially having them delivered at work.  It just 
makes me groan.  I'm talking about flowers from a florist.
If someone picks me some wildflowers or a rose from their garden
I love that.  Or if a person buys me a single flower and brings
it to me in person, that's nice too.  Those things stike me as
romantic.  I'm not really sure why I don't like the other.  I guess it's
that anyone can BUY flowers but it takes a special person to pick
a daisy and think of me.  "

I would really love it if someone sent me flowers at work, or even
at home.  It shows that the guy felt enough about me to spend the
non-trivial amount of money it takes to get florist flowers. I don't
mean that I want flowers often, but it would be really nice to get
them rarely; for a special occaision or for "no reason".

So there you are, guys.  Two dissenting opinions.  How do you tell
to which one the object of your affections subscribes?   Try sending
her flowers at home, for her birthday or for valentines day.  Then
carefully gauge her reaction.  If she says "Oh...how nice." you'd
better find another way to show your love.  If she says "Oh! How
NICE!" then you're in business.


Happy New Year!

Ariel Shattan
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