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From: marcum@fortune.UUCP (Alan M. Marcum)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Dealing with ex-lovers
Message-ID: <2076@fortune.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 21-Dec-83 12:11:41 EST
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Posted: Wed Dec 21 12:11:41 1983
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Organization: Fortune Systems, Redwood City, CA
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  I am still on good terms with both of my last lovers.  One of them
(broke up ~5 1/2 yrs. ago) is now married, pregnant, living in Michigan.
We correspond occasionally, though haven't seen each other in a few
years.  The breakup was painful for both of us.

  The other is now about one year dead, though we aer extremely good
friends.  She lives about a mile from me (we were POSSLQs for about two
years, after about a year of non-POSSLQ romance, and about 3 mos. of
friendship).  We have business dealings (may, though probably doesn't,
have something to do with continuing friendship), are symphony buddies,
bike riding companions, and general good friends.  The split was a
mutual one -- she was far more interested in a marriage-track
relationship than I (she's divorced with two teenage kids; try that one
sometime for some excitement in your life!).  We decided to call it a
relationship while we were still good friends, rather than postponing
what appeared inevitable until we were at each other's throats or
something.

Alan M. Marcum		Fortune Systems, Redwood City, California
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