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From: mokhtar@ubc-visi
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: signs?
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Date: Fri, 23-Dec-83 23:52:22 EST
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Posted: Fri Dec 23 23:52:22 1983
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   Someone said that some men seem to understand subtle signs and some don't.
 I don't think it is that simple. First of all, something which was intended
 as a sign might be interpreted as an accident followed by no response which
 will probably leave the woman who gave that sign angry or hurt or both. Even
 if it is not interpreted as an accident by the man, there is certainly no
 unique way of interpreting them (either in a positive or negative way). If
 that where true, men and women would have invented "standard" signs to mean
 specific things long ago. The world is full of misunderstandings because
 there can be no such standards. All it takes is for a man to meet a woman who
 gives him either a "subtle" or "strong" sign and find out later that she didn't
 "mean" it (just flirting or fooling around) or she changed her mind after she
 found out more about him (say he didn't have the right characteristics she  
 was looking for).  How  would you interpret a sign after that?
                                 Receiving a sign is not an answer to me. It
 only brings more questions but maybe I am too cynical. With some people you
 have to be more persistent. It very much depends on our ways of interpreting
 things and our past experiences. At some point a necessary risk must be taken
 by one of the people involved and the outcome may be unpleasant and signs
 may not make it any easier. How many of us stopped when our initial signs
 apparently "failed"? I usually make it a rule not to give up unless I get a
 definite no but there are exceptions.
                                        Signed: A man who "obviously" does
                                                not understand "subtle" or
                                                "strong" signs!