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Subject: forwarded message
Message-ID: <2188@allegra.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 7-Jan-84 04:10:04 EST
Article-I.D.: allegra.2188
Posted: Sat Jan  7 04:10:04 1984
Date-Received: Sun, 8-Jan-84 00:55:54 EST
Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Murray Hill
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Here is a letter I just sent to a close friend of mine.  Perhaps it will
contain something of interest to some people on net.motss:


  Dear Tom,

  I am really concerned about you and Mark.  I think you are making a big
  mistake if you leave Mark.  Here are my main points:

  1. You are too much of a perfectionist.  You reject people for trivial
  reasons when they have many good points.  Mark is loving, cute,
  intelligent, and a neat housemate.  When we were talking, you were
  never able to tell me anything convincingly bad about him.  If
  anything, you got lucky!  Do you think you can find lots of people who
  meet all your requirements?  I don't think so.

  2. In some ways I think you are still a virgin.  Like many people who
  don't start sex early in life, you are addicted to masterbation.  You
  have never experienced sex "here and now" with someone.  Instead, you
  climb into an inner fantasy world.  You are still masterbating instead
  of making love!

  3. Another indication of sexual immaturity is that you are so put off
  by the smells and tastes and feelings of the human body.  This is a
  sort of contempt for Humanity.  I know lots of straight people like
  this.  They think oral sex is gross.  They think a guy's cock is ugly.
  They suffer from a modern social disorder; thinking people should be
  pristine like they were made of plastic and chrome!

  4. Talk this over with Mark and see if you can't try to work out some
  more therapeutic love making.  Stop worrying about your own orgasm so
  much and just enjoy the feelings in your body.  Also, try concentrating
  on each other's orgasms.  Get Mark's rocks off and just watch him and
  enjoy his reactions while you're doing it.  Let him try to do the same
  to you.  Don't worry about "getting results".  Just playing together is
  better love making than some people accomplish.

  5. You and Mark can have an open relationship, I am sure.  First
  though, you must develop security and trust.  How can Mark trust you
  when you openly talk about leaving him!  If you are too selfish, you
  will wind up being the loser in the long run.  Friends and long-term
  relationships are something few gays achieve, and they are often very
  lonely because of that.
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					Your armchair sex therapist,
					"Lance"