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From: kinn@ihu1e.UUCP (Kevin Kinnear)
Newsgroups: net.motss
Subject: Re: Handling holidays
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Date: Sat, 7-Jan-84 14:34:20 EST
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Posted: Sat Jan  7 14:34:20 1984
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I agree.  Traditional family holidays pose a real problem for gay men and
Lesbians.  For me and mine, Christmas is the most important family holiday and
the biggest problem.  Neither set of parents knows that we are gay.  We have
tried several alternative ways to "handle the holidays":

1) One year we each spent Christmas with our respective families.  I didn't
mind that, but he said that he did not like spending that holiday ("alone")
without me.

2) One year we both spent Christmas eve at my family's then we both spent
Christmas day at his.  This was possible because our families live within 150
miles of each other.  Ironically, though, it did not work because I was sick in
bed Christmas eve and he spent it alone with MY family.

3) One year we decided that we would spend it at home (i.e. OUR home).
After we had broken the bad news to both sets of parents,
my parents informed us that my sister (who has not been home for five
years) was making the trip back with her family.  Nevertheless, firm in our
resolve, we maintained that we were not traveling on Christmas.  Secretly,
though, we planned to drop in after Christmas.  We had a tree and decorations
for the first time in years, we spent Christmas eve at home alone, all of our
families' presents were more fun to open having arrived by mail.  We like this
plan the best of all.

4) Next year... who knows.