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From: walt2@ihuxl.UUCP (Walt Kurszewski)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Hugs
Message-ID: <819@ihuxl.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 5-Jan-84 19:48:41 EST
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Posted: Thu Jan  5 19:48:41 1984
Date-Received: Fri, 6-Jan-84 04:29:28 EST
Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, IL
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I'd like to relate an experience that seems appropriate for
net.singles.  Recent articles indicate that when a relationship
ends both people miss the non-sexual touching (hugs).

While I was attending Tech I became close friends with two very
special people, Jane and Sue.  We spent endless hours talking.
It never really mattered what we talked about.  We never judged
each other or worried about saying the wrong thing.  We under-
stood each other.  When I think back to my years at Tech my
fondest memories are of Sue and Jane.

So what's the big deal?  Sue or Jane would see me walking down
the hall/street and say "Walt, a hug would make my day." and 
we'd hug.  It didn't matter what anyone around us at the time
thought.  It always managed to make my day.  It felt so good
just to hug someone special.

I never had any romantic/sexual feelings for them.  We each
were involved in relationships at the time.  We talked quite
often of our "significant others" and it helped strengthen
the relationship with the SO.  [EGADS!! ANOTHER ACRONYM!!!].

The relationship with my significant other has since ended and
I too miss the hugs the most.  Sex is fantastic but what I
miss most is waking up next to her in the morning (even if
she did hoard the blanket!).  When I was in high school my
Family Living instructor said the average sexual experience
between a married couple lasted 8 minutes (including foreplay).
I have no idea where she got that bit of information, but
assuming its true you're still left with 23 hours and 24
minutes left in the day!  I guess that's why I think the hugs
are more important.  Hugs give my heart a special lasting 
feeling that I can't express in words.

I miss those hugs.  I don't know if I'll ever have friends
as understanding as Sue and Jane again.  I'll never stop
believing in the power of a simple hug.


			Walt Kurszewski
			ihnp4!ihuxl!walt2