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From: laura@utcsstat.UUCP (Laura Creighton)
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Subject: Re: Trying Too Hard and Blindness
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Date: Sat, 7-Jan-84 17:56:50 EST
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This, of course, excludes those who for some reason or other have taken on
a moral responsibility to love *evryone*. For them. Love at first sight
is natural. *Exclusive* love at first sight is not.

Proposition: Until you get to know somebody very well (and often even then)
		all you have is your generalisations on how you expect
		this person to be. Thus it is perfectly possible to fall
		in love with what you expect the other person to be. This
		need have no relationship to what the person actually *is*,
		though, so it is not the wisest idea that I can think of.

On the other hand, loving people even if you haven't got a clue as to
what they are like doesn't strike me as a bad idea. Just don't try to
force them into your preconceived mould of what you would *like* them
to be like...

Laura Creighton
utzoo!utcsstat!laura