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Subject: Re: Shyness and making the first step.
Message-ID: <133@yeti.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 9-Jan-84 16:40:23 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan  9 16:40:23 1984
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>  Richard Blouin:
>  
>  A person that can feel his own loveability without the need for
>  "certification" by others is no longer shy, because refusal or rejection by
>  another doesn't disturb the belief in his/her own loveability.

I don't know; I've felt like a pretty lovable guy for years, and I'm still
shy (initially, at least).  My problem is not so much fear of immediate
rejection, which is over quickly (and easy to take).  The problem arises on
second or third dates or thereabouts, when I start feeling nervous about
whether or not the relationship is going to take off or go into
"just-friends-mode".  "Just friends" is fine, but after years of being just
friends with various MOTOS, I'm looking for something a bit more involved
(if only for a change of pace!).  Then, after worrying about that for
awhile, I worry that it's too early in the relationship to worry about that.
An Eternal Golden Braid of nail-biting!  Aaaagh!

-- 
Mike Leibensperger,  Massachusetts Computer Corporation
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