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From: spaf@gatech.UUCP (Gene Spafford)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: Snakes
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Date: Tue, 10-Jan-84 00:30:00 EST
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Posted: Tue Jan 10 00:30:00 1984
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    I feel it hard to believe that anyone would consider the man a "SNAKE"
    if the female counterpart is so willing to be taken away.
    
    Something to think about, eh???
    

Exactly.  It is similar to the idea of fighting over a woman -- why not
let her make the choice?  Although a relationship may be something to
be prized, the other person is not a treasure that may be really
owned.  Although that other person may be unique, there are many
other treasures to be discovered.

It is difficult to be tempted away when you are happy with where you
are.  For someone to be "snaked away" implies that they weren't happy
where they were, or not mature enough to deal with the current
relationship and its rough spots.  So the "prize" you lost may have
taken on a distinct patina of corrosion -- the gold is really brass.
But now you're free to seek another treasure.

Still, it is difficult not to feel resentment and hurt, and focus some
of that at the "snake."  Don't let it eat you away inside -- someone
else would have come along, or some incident, and the same thing would
have happened in a different way.  Instead, forge ahead.  Sometimes the
best revenge is living well and loving again.  The snake will get what
s/he he deserves in the end, and probably from another snake.
-- 
Off the Wall of Gene Spafford
The Clouds Project, School of ICS, Georgia Tech, Atlanta GA 30332
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