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From: chuqui@cae780.UUCP (Chuq Von Rospach)
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Subject: Re: Trying Too Hard and Blindness
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Date: Tue, 10-Jan-84 12:39:53 EST
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Posted: Tue Jan 10 12:39:53 1984
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    I've known people who have seen a MOTAS from a distance a few times
    and have said they liked the person.  How can you possibly like
    someone you don't even know?  I could understand physical
    attraction, but don't confuse that with deeper emotions.

I think it is VERY possible to 'know' that a person is likeable long before
you meet them. I have found that my first impression of a person tends to
be very close to what that person really is when I do learn about them. I
have finally learned to trust my intutition on these things, and I am
(almost) never disappointed. I have met a number of people with this
intuitive sense, and they all feel similarly to me. I have also met a
greater number of those with no intuition (or who refuse to accept it), and
it is almost impossible to explain what that feeling is or how it works to
them.

There are a number of people that I don't 'know', in the traditional sense
of the word, and in fact have never met in person. Many of them I consider
very dear friends, regardless of that, because I 'know' that they are very
good and caring people (and I thank the net for bringing them closer to
me...)


    I don't believe love at first sight exists.

I believe that love at first site DOES exist, but that it is different than
what most people seem to feel is love. Four years ago, I met a very
wonderful person, and proceeded to 'fall in love' and get married. I am now
in the process of extricating myself from that relationship, not because I
didn't love her, but because in the last few years, we have both matured
and changed in mutually incompatible ways. We are still very good friends,
and we realize that for our friendship to last, we have to quit living
together. I still love her, but love is really a very small part of a long
term relationship that to keep that love alive I am giving up all of the
tokens that society defines as showing love.

I think the problem with defining love is the same as for defining science
fiction. You can't define it, but you know it when you see it. 
-- 
From the dungeons of the warlock:	 	Chuqui the Plaid

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