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From: saquigley@watdaisy.UUCP (Sophie Quigley)
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Subject: Re: The morning after??
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Date: Thu, 12-Jan-84 11:20:10 EST
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Posted: Thu Jan 12 11:20:10 1984
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>  Recently I had the experience of befriending a person after a "traumatic"
>  break-up(first love,2 year romance).  I ask YOU:
>  
>  -What is the best cure for a broken heart?
>  -Will time REALLY cure a broken heart?
>  -Can a person really establish a serious relationship after this
>   experience?
>  -Will engaging in another relationship help or hurt the mending process?
>   (assuming that the "mending process" will take a while)
>  -How do you prevent this experience from affecting future relationships?
>  -How do you convince a person that LOVE is worth trying again?

I don't think there is a magic "cure" to that kind of problem, people vary
greatly.  Judging from the broken-up relationships I have seen around me 
including my own (I went out with my first boyfriend for 4 years), I 
can make the following comments:
(please no flames, I am just reporting what I noticed around me with no claims
to posessing "the" truth)

1- It seems that time does heal (thank god)
2- Engaging in other relationships does seem to help, but only if the person
	decides out of his/her own free will that it is something they want to
	do.
3- A currious pattern I noticed in a few of my friends and myself: after a
	"traumatic" break-up, there is often another person of the opposite
	sex trying to convince the broken-hearted person that it is possible
	to love again.  The broken-hearted person is only half-heartedly convin-
	ced but decides to give it a try with that special friend who is being
	so nice, and then ends up being really convinced and walks off with
	someone else. I think that people who are involved in long relationships
	tend to like that kind of relationship but for some reason need a short
	one in-between before they start a new long one afresh.

Good luck with your friend.
				Sophie Quigley