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From: rh@mit-eddie.UUCP (Randy Haskins)
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Subject: Re: The morning after??
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Date: Fri, 13-Jan-84 02:02:57 EST
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Posted: Fri Jan 13 02:02:57 1984
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Yeah, more thoughts about rebound relationships (since I'm
trying to avoid blowing it again...):

I was talking with someone around here, and we decided there
are two problems with rebound relationships:

1.  You aren't necessarily thinking clearly if you've just
    lost in a relationship.  You might even be desperate
    and jump into the [company,arms,bed] of someone you
    normally wouldn't settle for.  This is obviously not
    good because eventually, you will wake up and realize
    that you've been cheating yourself out of what you think
    you deserve (and sometimes it can take a long time like
    it did with me), and you're not really being fair to the
    other person.  The way to get around this is to spend
    a lot of time thinking about the potential relationship
    you might be getting into.  Try to imagine yourself happy
    and carefree as you undoubtedly were at some point in your
    recent past, and see if you think that you would want to
    share those good times with the person, or if you feel
    you wouldn't need them.  If you wait enough time (and
    think about it enough), you'll probably realize either
    that indeed this is a truly special person, or that
    the person is nothing but a convenience that you intend
    to avail yourself to.   This is relatively easy, compared
    with:

2.  Thinking clearly throughout the duration of the relationship.
    Even if your new person is special to you, you will find 
    yourself talking about the previous one quite a bit.  You
    might even annoy the new person.  You'll probably end up
    being a bit paranoid about the new person relating to some
    bad habit the previous one may have had.  You might call
    the new person by the old one's name (and there are some
    times where doing this is worse than others).  You're probably
    going to be dwelling on it for some time, so this should be
    considered.

Whew, this wasn't supposed to be so long.  More later...
-- 
Randwulf  (Randy Haskins);  Path= genrad!mit-eddie!rh