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From: rh@mit-eddie.UUCP (Randy Haskins)
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Subject: getting hurt and avoiding same
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Date: Mon, 16-Jan-84 01:59:32 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 16 01:59:32 1984
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The way to avoid getting hurt in a relationship is to go into
the relationship not having any ridiculous expectations.
(Like this will be the one true love that will last forever.)
THINK about the thing in logical terms:
1.  Do you expect the relationship to last for the rest of 
    your life?  (i.e., marriage and everything)
2.  Do you expect that one of you will die during the
    relationship?
3.  If you didn't answer yes to one of the previous questions,
    then you have to face the fact that THE RELATIONSHIP WILL
    END AT SOME POINT.  (If you answered Yes to 1, you are
    hopelessly optimistic, if you answered Yes to 2, you are
    hopelessly pessimistic.)  THIS IS NOT NECESSARILY A BAD
    THING!!!  We need variety in our lives.  I would be
    frightened by the concept of having to pick someone I
    plan to spend the rest of my life with.  I'm glad I can
    have a string of relationships so that if and when I
    decide to try to spend the rest of my life with one
    person, I might know what the frogs I'm doing.

"Embrace the ephemeral; permenance is for immortal beings."

-- 
Randwulf  (Randy Haskins);  Path= genrad!mit-eddie!rh