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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Another dumb(?) question
Message-ID: <484@pucc-h>
Date: Sun, 22-Jan-84 17:28:39 EST
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Posted: Sun Jan 22 17:28:39 1984
Date-Received: Mon, 23-Jan-84 05:08:40 EST
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Situation:  I am presently attracted to a young woman who, I feel, would
be good for me in my present emotional and spiritual state, but who does
not seem quite the sort that I would wish to be involved with permanently
(i.e. marriage).  Still, she does seem the sort that I would wish to be
involved with temporarily.  Is it kosher to ask her out, or would it be
merely using her?

Two notes on the circumstances, to help you focus on an answer:

1. This is her last semester here @ Purdue.  Thus, if I do ask her out, either
   she will choose not to get involved since she is about to leave, or any
   relationship we do form will (possibly) fade away after she departs.  So I
   may be safe from the awkward possibility of dating her for a long time but
   disappointing her by never proposing....
2. I do not anticipate that she & I would become sexually involved to any
   great degree (if at all).  That's not the sort of "using" I'm thinking of.
   Rather, it's just that I am at a point in my life where I need some
   emotional and spiritual rebuilding that I feel she could help me with.

I apologize for asking all these questions whose answers are probably obvious
to most people; but I've dated so little in my life that I've not been able
to learn the answers.  Please be patient with me; I'm still trying to grow up.

-- Jeff Sargent/...pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq