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From: saquigley@watmath.UUCP (Sophie Quigley)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: being "subtle"
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Date: Fri, 6-Jan-84 10:57:35 EST
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Posted: Fri Jan  6 10:57:35 1984
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Fair enough.  I did notice that the few men to who I gave subtle encouragement
were not pretty good at picking it up, but did pick it up eventually.  From the
stories that I've heard from some of my women-friends, they tended to run into
the same situations, but this totals up to at most 10 cases, not enough to draw
any solid conclusions.
However, the cases of men not understanding subtle no's are much more numerous,
and there definitely is a pattern there.  So you are probably right, dave,
understanding subtlety is probably not the problem; it is probably, as you
suggested, either that they are not very good at being rejected (who is?) or
that they have been confused in the past by other women sending "no" messages
meaning "yes".  Sigh..

Next generalisation to be shot down?