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From: tjt@kobold.UUCP
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Subject: Re: being subtle.
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Date: Wed, 11-Jan-84 15:16:43 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 11 15:16:43 1984
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As long as the issue of "being subtle" isn't quite closed, I'll put in
my two cents worth (or rather my wife's two cents worth):  she agrees
that women *are* better at communicating via subtle signals and often
points out to me (after the fact) that some seeming compliment was
really a backhanded insult.  I'm not better at interpreting positive
subtle communication: soon after we met and she asked me to help her
with her physics homework, my response was to refer her to other people
in the class who knew the material better than me, and lived closer to
her.

My impression is that this is just the other half of "games mother
didn't teach you" so the problem may not be that men are better or
worse at using subtle communication, but rather that they learn
different subtle languages.

-- 
	Tom Teixeira,  Massachusetts Computer Corporation.  Westford MA
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