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From: gulley@stolaf.UUCP (William T. Gulley)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: more on feminism and power
Message-ID: <1602@stolaf.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 31-Mar-84 16:30:34 EST
Article-I.D.: stolaf.1602
Posted: Sat Mar 31 16:30:34 1984
Date-Received: Sun, 1-Apr-84 07:49:08 EST
Organization: St. Olaf College, Northfield MN
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	I very much agree with you, Farzin, that the act, whether
	conciously or unconciously, of putting roles on people
	does a great disservice to their individuality.  But don't
	you think that, in many cases, that injustice is self-
	inflicted?   I mean, don't a lot of people *choose* to be
	bound by those roles because it promises a greater oppor-
	unity of acceptance by others?  (Not to mention that they
	can sometimes be fun to use in a somewhat playful fashion-
	when being just little ol' you gets tiresome)

	It's not only unfortunate, but sometimes tragic, that it has
	gotten to be such a knee-jerk reaction (me included) to
	pigeonhole so many people. (me included) Maybe some psycho-
	logists would say that it's "natural", but I'm more inclined
	to think that it's merely a product of laziness; getting to
	know someone as a complex individual takes more effort than
	automatically assigning him/her a role.  Why should it be
	such a bother to just accept that most people you know are
	much more than you think they are?  If this is such a human
	impulse, why does it end up being so de-humanizing to others?  

	As an aside:  I've found it always curious that, in this
	almost-ERA era, that it is seen as much more uncouth for
 	a man to have romantic relationships with several women, than
	it is for a woman to have romantic relationships with several
	men.  It seems even more curious to be, when I take into
	account the stereotypical role of men as being the "go-getters"
	in relationships.  If it's true what many sociologists and
	psychologists are saying, that most men are currently undergoing
	an identity crisis as to their roles in society as men, all 
	I can say is, No wonder!. 

	Sorry, no answers from here, just a LOT of questions-

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    UM YA YAAA!!
    Man, that felt great. .

    William Gulley - St. Olaf College - Northfield, Minnesota
    . .!inhp4!stolaf!gulley