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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: several concerns (I hope I remember them all)
Message-ID: <661@pucc-h>
Date: Thu, 12-Apr-84 03:57:56 EST
Article-I.D.: pucc-h.661
Posted: Thu Apr 12 03:57:56 1984
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Once again turning net.singles into a support group, I have some questions:

How safe/wise is it to get involved (or try to) with someone whose age differs
considerably from mine?  I'm pushing 29, and one of the young ladies who has
recently been added to my interest list is just finishing her freshman year --
i.e. she's probably 18 or 19.  We seem to hit it off pretty well, have some
common interests (e.g. guitar), and like each other's company; but I am
wondering if the fact that I've had 10 years more life experience than she
would cause problems and lack of understanding between us.  I am also
wondering if I am attracted to someone that young because I dated so little
when I was that age, and I need to get it out of my system (or perhaps my
maturity vis-a-vis women is about at that level).  I probably won't be able
to try to start anything with her for some months (after all, the school
year is about over, and finals start in less than 3 weeks); but I'd
appreciate any advice/warnings/prior experience in this area.

Second, more nebulous question:  Those readers (are there any?) who are
married, or at least are pretty sure whom they'll marry:  How did you go about
figuring out what you really wanted in a MOTOS, or what kind of mate you
really wanted?  There are numerous characteristics which I MIGHT like in a
mate, some of them contradictory.  How does one figure out what one, at
bottom, underneath all the shouting pains, really and truly wants in a mate?
Anything that anyone is willing to share on this question (actually, you don't
even have to be attached, if you have some reasonable ideas) would be
appreciated.

On a lighter note:  I got a card from a friend (not exactly a girlfriend,
though she did start corresponding with me in response to some of my
net.singles articles) who lives several hundred miles from me.  The card is
by Boynton (a prolific humorous artist); the front cover depicts a mouse and
a somewhat hypertrophied giraffe looking at each other; the inside reads,
"A long-distance relationship isn't easy."  Quite true, we have found....


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-- Jeff Sargent
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