Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP
Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site harpo.UUCP
Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!floyd!harpo!jrl
From: jrl@harpo.UUCP (jrl)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: reply to J. Sargent
Message-ID: <2265@harpo.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 12-Apr-84 16:17:33 EST
Article-I.D.: harpo.2265
Posted: Thu Apr 12 16:17:33 1984
Date-Received: Fri, 13-Apr-84 20:43:26 EST
Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Whippany
Lines: 31


<for the software bugs>

    This is in reply to Jeff Sargent whose path to purdue is too complicated
for me to try to mail directly.

     I can relate to your distain of 'smalltalk' I myself find it hard to
carry on a conversation at that level. Is'nt it more stimulating to discuss
the big bang theory than the latest episode of Dallas. Unfortunatlly this
is not what the ladies want to hear. I have a friend who is one of New Yorks
Finest (a cop) and when me and him go out 'hunting' he draws more interest 
with his cop tales than I do with my discussion about the latest advances
in VLSI or physics or whatever. This seems to be a fact that holds true
most of the time. Smalltalk seems to be another one of those social games
that one must play in order to get a date. Once the ice is broken things
will go much more smoothly.

    As for the 'fine art' of meeting people, I can also relate to this.
I am aproaching 30 and three years ago I was dumped by a woman who I
went with for seven years. Of course me being a decent person, during
that time I stayed off the prowl and got quite rusty at socializing.
     What I found is that there is no way to 'learn' this art except
to try and if you fail to try again. For a while you might be made a
fool of and rejected. So what ? If you get discourged remember that
if given egnough tries, you will hone your rapport into something that
you will feel comfortable with and this n turn will give you more
confidence in this art. 

                       Good luck !                 harpo!jrl