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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: several concerns
Message-ID: <918@hao.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 12-Apr-84 21:40:38 EST
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Posted: Thu Apr 12 21:40:38 1984
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  I personally think people put way too much stock in age. I am 27; I am
currently dating a lady who is 37. About two years ago (meaning I was 25),
I had a lover who was 38. Who cares? These are the best two relationships
I ever had. To me, that's all that counts. Most of my friends and family
were quite supportive about it (of course, it's easy for my parents to
say it's OK. I have brothers that age! To my mother, these are young kids! :-)
Actually, I think I actually do find older women more attractive. They seem
to appreciate me more, and they are at their sexual prime. I have a lot of
trouble making favorable impressions on younger women, for some as yet
undiscovered reason. Probably because I do not fit the traditional male
image very well. My good qualities do not include lots of muscles and lots
of self-confidence. (I suspect the latter is the key)

  Regarding what you really want in a mate: I learned a long time ago that
I can't afford to be too choosy. Opportunities do not come along for me all
that often. If there is more good than bad in a relationship, and you have
nothing else better (and neither does she), then it is worth sticking with it.
I know this view is probably not too popular, but I don't care. It works for
me. For example, in my current situation, my SO (Significant Other) is not
nearly as sensitive and affectionate as I. I would prefer someone much more
so than she. But there isn't anyone like that in my life right now, and
the moments we *are* close make all the moments of doubt worthwhile (I have
a lot of trouble believing a woman is still interested if she doesn't 
say or demonstrate so once in a while). When I take this up with her, she
usually says something like "I'm sorry, that's just the way I am" or some
similar cop-out. In any case, as long as this relationship beats being lonely,
and as long as she still wants to keep it going, and as long as I don't 
preceive that I have a chance with someone else I like better, I'll
continue to see her. Why not?

  Well, I'm sure I've done a poor job of getting my point across, as usual
in writing. But I haven't got time to rewrite it, so here it is. I'll probably
get flamed. Better slip into my asbestos suit....

		   GREG
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