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From: kak@asgb.UUCP
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Subject: Re: Several Concerns
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Date: Fri, 13-Apr-84 20:32:47 EST
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Posted: Fri Apr 13 20:32:47 1984
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Some minor comments on dating somebody much younger than yourself:
The gap in experience becomes smaller with time. Once things arn't
"new" all the time, the relationship will take on a different 
perspective.  This has two aspects, if her attraction to you is 
because of you introducing them to new activities, then after those 
activites are common place, much of the original reason for attraction 
will be gone.  But conversations will improve as she gets a chance to 
get used to some of the ideas and issues that are new to her, assuming 
that you are interested in conversation.  Also, if you assume that 
relevant experience starts accumulating about the end of high school, 
then the relative differences in you ages will go down.
I went out with a freshman for a while when I went to college,
and one thing that bothered me was the "Gee whiz" kinda attitude about
things that were, to me, commonplace.  ("Wouldn't it be neat to go 
out to the bars!")  

Another point to consider is personality stability.  I remember that 
particular age group as when a lot of people changed many aspects of 
their personalities and activities, a time of experimentation.  I think 
that people in that age group should not be expected to have all the 
same continuing personality traits as much as some one older.  Some 
of the things you like may be slated for change.

Why this overkill on the subject?  Well, unless I have overestimated 
your current relationship, it sounds like you are already in what I 
would consider a reasonable relationship with this person, one that 
gives both of you enjoyment, and if you are thinking about intensifing 
it from there, some of these things may become issues for you to think 
about. Otherwise, I'd say enjoy it and don't worry about things like age.

from the land 
of the mountains,
KAK