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From: cly@cbdkc1.UUCP (Carl Yaffey)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: re: review of "singles documentary"
Message-ID: <477@cbdkc1.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 27-Apr-84 09:12:04 EST
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Posted: Fri Apr 27 09:12:04 1984
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In my experience as a single (38 of my 43 years), it would be a mistake
to believe the stereotypes. There are ALL kinds of single people wanting
ALL KINDS of relationships. The two types discussed in the documentary exist,
as well as every other kind you can think of. I think that the problem 
portrayed is a real one, however. In the older age groups there definitely
seems to be more women looking for something solid (a "commitment") than
there are men looking for the same. Why can't they find what they want?
Is it just the numbers, or is it where they're looking? Could it be
that they're looking for perfect men and there just aren't any?
I know some women who seem attracted to the rough, tough macho guys
and then lament that they turn out to be insensitive, cold, heartless,
unfaithful, etc. They don't like the sensitive, loyal guys because
they're "wimps". One female friend is always saying, "I guess I just
like the 'bad' guys".  
If this is a real problem, what can be done about it? Is it socialization
and therefore impossible to change? I have not mentioned the opposite
problem: all the guys looking for a perfect women. Maybe someone else
wants to tackle that one!
Comments?
-- 
Carl Yaffey at AT&T Bell Laboratories Columbus, Ohio 
614-860-3399 cbosgd!cbdkc1!cly