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From: mokhtar@ubc-vision.CDN (Farzin Mokhtarian)
Newsgroups: net.social
Subject: Empty Hugs?
Message-ID: <272@ubc-vision.CDN>
Date: Mon, 9-Apr-84 01:07:50 EST
Article-I.D.: ubc-visi.272
Posted: Mon Apr  9 01:07:50 1984
Date-Received: Thu, 5-Apr-84 01:08:48 EST
Organization: UBC Vision, Vancouver, B.C., Canada
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   You are right that a friend's hug is different from a lover's. In my case,
my lover has also been my best friend and nobody's hug has ever matched hers.
If it's a friend, it would have to be a true, trusted friend or as you said
the hug will be empty and such a friend is very hard to find (at least for me).
What I was objecting to was that the original article seemed to suggest
hugging almost anyone and seemed to abstract the hug and make the other 
person (his/her feelings, beliefs, personality) almost irrelevant. If that is
true, I certainly don't agree (If `abstract' sex doesn't appeal to you, you
probably know what I am talking about).
    
    Farzin Mokhtarian, UBC, Vancouver, BC