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From: mazur@inmet.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: women after marriage - (nf)
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Date: Fri, 23-Mar-84 00:24:31 EST
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Posted: Fri Mar 23 00:24:31 1984
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inmet!mazur    Mar 22 00:34:00 1984

	Is it true that a womens views of sex change after she has 'caught 
	her man'?  In a few instances here we find a women, previously 
	interested in physical attention, have, since marriage, lost the lust. 
	Is this the common phenomenon, or not?  

First, I'm not thrilled with your expression, 'caught her man'.  We are getting
into stereotypes here.  Yes, there are some women whose sole purpose in life
is to marry Prince Charming, but even so, you're giving us alot of credit if
you think that a majority of women trap men into marriage.  

It is not true that 'a woman's' view of sex changes after marriage.  It is true
that some women's views change.  Quite a few women are not as excited by sex as
their mates.  If you read Dear Abby, she constantly gets letters from women who
are not interested in sex, but put up with it for their husband's sake.  You
say yourself "In a few instances here..."; I don't think it is common.

As far as the controversy, you are certainly going to get that if you really
try and argue this premise (that women "catch men" and lose interest in sex)
in a group populated by career-oriented women (and alot of liberated men).

	Also, have you ever noticed that a women will wear her hair shorter 
	after marriage?

Yes, but have you ever noticed that a lot of women are wearing their hair
shorter before marriage?  Besides being a lot easier to take care of, many
women find that it actually flatters them more at that length.  

Actually, I could ask an equally worthless question:  Have you ever noticed
that a man starts watching a hell of alot more sports, and doesn't worry about
the beer belly after he gets married?  Remember, I said equally *worthless*.
It's true in some cases, but certainly not worth stating as a result of 
marriage.

Beth Mazur
{ima,harpo,esquire}!inmet!mazur