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From: bobgian@psuvax.UUCP (Bob Giansiracusa)
Newsgroups: net.kids,net.women
Subject: Children sleeping with parents
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Date: Sun, 25-Mar-84 11:22:21 EST
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Posted: Sun Mar 25 11:22:21 1984
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[This started in net.women but probably should move to net.kids; I'm
posting to both as a "transition".]

The discussion started about children sleeping with parents.  I pointed
out some of the advantages: child seems to grow with a greater sense of
security, and many times we became aware of problems (kid too cold, fever
developing, etc.) that we might have missed otherwise. co@ariel wrote
asking what happened when our son "moved out" on his own.  To pick up ...

Herschel (our son) told US when he wanted his own bed.  And he is welcome
back with us at any time.  I guess the declining "need for security"
curve crossed the rising "need for more space" curve somewhere around
age 2, and he chose to "move on out" then.
     
I should add that his bed is in our room, so he is never more than a few
feet from us anyway.  Someday he may tell us he wants his own room.
Then (if we can afford it) he'll get it.
     
We have found that most childhood problems (so far, at least) can be
greatly alleviated by listening to our children and respecting what they
tell us.  I'm not saying we are perfect, but we try.  Most other people
don't.
     
   Bob Giansiracusa

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