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From: mokhtar@ubc-vision.CDN (Farzin Mokhtarian)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Playing games
Message-ID: <345@ubc-vision.CDN>
Date: Wed, 9-May-84 22:01:18 EDT
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Posted: Wed May  9 22:01:18 1984
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   You don't like to play games. I don't either. But what's wrong with saying
that expecting people to mold into a role and rejecting them emotionally or
psychologically (if not physically) if they don't, is *unfair* ? And all because
that's how it is. It would be more precise to say that's how things are made
to be and that's hardly a satisfactory answer.
  
   It might help to actually be more vocal about it. Many people take it so
much for granted that they don't realize there can be another way or that is
the only way they know.
  
   Loneliness may justify `playing the game' to some but I realized early on
that a relationship whose foundations are built on `throwing a false image'
is not reliable or strong. No loneliness is lost in such a relationship, but
there is some freedom lost in it.
   
   As far as being honest is concerned, I think one should be very careful
with it. Too much of it too early can be very threathening because the other
person doesn't know whether they can trust you with their secrets. It takes
a long time for me to open up to someone. I don't consider myself dishonest
but I don't share my inner thoughts with everyone. You may be an angel but
trust only comes with time, sometimes lots of time.
  
   - Farzin Mokhtarian