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From: judy@ut-ngp.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: lonely women
Message-ID: <593@ut-ngp.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 11-May-84 14:52:40 EDT
Article-I.D.: ut-ngp.593
Posted: Fri May 11 14:52:40 1984
Date-Received: Sun, 13-May-84 10:27:10 EDT
Organization: Comp. Center, Univ. of Texas at Austin
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Well, there is at least one other lonely woman out on the net - me. I'm
not lonely in the sense that I stay home all the time or anything. I have
a group of friends I see every weekend (composed mostly of single men,
surprisingly enough) but I just can't seem to find the kind of relationship
I really want and need.
 I call the phenomenon you described the yo-yo effect. They pull you close
one minute then push you away the next. I usually put up with it a while
then cut the string, but I give them plenty of warning. I consider it very
immature, and a sign that perhaps this person isn't ready to handle a REAL
relationship.
 What kind of relationship am I looking for? Glad you asked. I want a friend
AND a lover - in the same person. I want him to live in the same city as I do.
I DON'T want him to think he OWNS me and I DON'T need a "commitment". Just
someone who cares, understands and isn't shopping around for a wife. 
 Unfortunately, it seems that MOST of the men I have gone with that are 
caring, considerate, etc., ARE looking for a wife - and none of them have been
"right" for me. Sometimes I think I'm too picky (as far as marriage goes), but
I guess I'm spoiled. I had a very happy marriage to a very wonderful man for
five years - but he died 4 1/2 years ago.
 The only man I know that even comes close to the discription above lives 
in DALLAS, damn it! Oh, well - guess I'll just have to keep on looking.
I'm in no hurry to re-marry, I have some things to finish first (like
my bachelor's degree) before I can make THAT much of a commitment - but
I don't want to spend the rest of my life without someone to share it with,
so if I meet someone who IS "right" I won't hesitate to commit. That's 
exactly what I did before.


Judy