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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Uncle Chuqui)
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Subject: Re: embarrassment of riches
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Date: Sun, 13-May-84 14:30:17 EDT
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Posted: Sun May 13 14:30:17 1984
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Imperfections? I haven't noticed any imperfections in you, Jeff. Unless you
count being human imperfect. Your two goals amy seem conflicting to you, but
they really aren't. I feel that the reason they seem conflicting is because
you have put the wrong priority to them. 

The critical step in developing a relationship with any SO is friendship. 
Everything develops (or should...) from that. The important thing is to get
over the edge and start getting to know these young ladies better. As you 
start spending time with them and getting to know them you will know whether
or not the spark is there that will lead the two of you beyond simple 
friendship (note: I am not accusing any friendship of being simple. Any 
relationship is complex beyond description, but there are levels of complexity
in a serious relationship that dwarf anything else. That is what makes them
so wonderful). 

The one thing to keep in mind, and this is VERY important, is to not get 
disappointed if your friends remain friends. Special relationships are 
governed by things that moral men simply cannot understand, and there is 
no way to tell whether or not something further than friendship will develop
until it does (of course, if it doesn't, you won't know whether or not it 
never will, so that doesn't help... :->). My suggestion is to try to view this
not as a search for a SO, since if you do you will probably not succeed (many
animals can smell fear, I am convinced that MOTOS can smell desperation). 
Become friends with these people, and take joy in their friendship. If anything
else does happen, it will be further cause to rejoice and thank whatever
generic being who happens to be smiling down on you.

chuq
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From the closet of anxieties of:			Chuq Von Rospach
{amd70,fortune,hplabs,ihnp4}!nsc!chuqui			(408) 733-2600 x242

Half asleep I hear a voice; is it only in my mind?
Or is it someone calling me, someone I failed and left behind?