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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
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Subject: Re: One Night Stands
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Date: Sun, 13-May-84 12:13:15 EDT
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Posted: Sun May 13 12:13:15 1984
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   I have mixed experiences (such as they are) with these. Exactly twice in
my 10 years or so of involvement with women I have made love with a woman I
had never met before that night (I presume this is what Kenf had in mind).
One of these women was my lover for two years, whenever we could arrange
to see each other (she had two jobs to support two teenagers, and lived
40 miles away). I would describe this as a successful relationship, for what
it was. I still see her occasionally, but now she is moving to Arizona and
I probably won't see her much (if at all) any more. I guess this is your
basic non-committed relationship I've heard discussed here recently. It was
formed by favorable circumstances (she had just been seperated from her 
husband-at-the time, and I had just broken up with the only real girfriend
I ever had, and was feeling very lonely), and it looks like it is ending
due to unfavorable ones (she is moving out of the area). Oh, well, c'est
la vie, and besides I have a new lady now, but that is another story....
   The other one was a total disaster. In that case, the woman was
a stereotypical hippie (not that I really have anything against that), and was 
more interested in how many days she could hang out at my place and sponge
off me than she was in a sexual or emotional interlude. This experience was
emotionally distressing for me, but it taught me how mercanary some people are 
capable of being with sex. I was shocked, but what the hell, I was just a 
naive 25-year-old then! :-)
  The moral of this is, for me, that one night stands are a mixed bag of tricks
(awful pun intentional). Sometimes, particularly in times of loneliness, they
can be very nice, but watch out! I would not recommend pick-ups for most
people. Only those who are capable of turning their emotions off for a while
(which I cannot).

			 GREG
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