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Subject: Re: lonely women and a question - (nf)
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Date: Sun, 13-May-84 15:13:17 EDT
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Posted: Sun May 13 15:13:17 1984
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<sacrifice to first-line-eaters>
     On your first question:  being male I obviously have no pertinent
answer.  I too have noticed that most of the group submissions come
from men.
     Being over the hill chronologically, I have been involved in a few
relationships where vacillation seemed to be the predominant character-
istic of the MOTOS.  My conclusion has been that control, not involve-
ment, was the prime motivation in those cases.  By never taking a stand
and sticking by it the MOTOS left all the commitment to me, and there-
fore also all the risk & vulnerability.  By and large, this is a no-
win situation for the person left trying to, first, create some stabil-
ity & commitment, and, later, trying to salvage some self-respect after
having run themselves ragged attempting to please the MOTOS.  So, my
advice is:  do yourself a favor & find someone equally willing to
put themselves out on a limb for you, as you are for them.

                             Discussion & refutation welcomed,
                             Flames to /dev/null

                             Richard Patrick
                             Symplex Communications
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