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From: ab3@stat-l (Rsk the Wombat)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Are there any "Men- or Lady-Killers" out there?
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Date: Tue, 15-May-84 16:20:00 EDT
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Posted: Tue May 15 16:20:00 1984
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	I'm sure that there are; and I think perhaps all of us have wanted
to be one at one time or another; or to run into one at one time or another.

	The problem with being/meeting a KOTOS (gee, can I coin an acronym
too? :-) ) is that there is a reasonably high probability that the attraction
will be either (a) non-mutual or (b) fleeting.  This goes with the territory,
so to speak; unfortunately a lot of folks don't seem to realize this.

	Restatement of the problem: if you play for one-night stands, be
prepared to get just that; no long-term affection, no deep support, and a lot
of letdowns on the way to That Big Night.  On the other hand, if you're playing
to be the other half of the one-night stand, be ready for exactly the same
thing, with an additional caveat that you'll probably wake up alone.  Oh, yes,
just because someone is eye-poppingly attractive, don't automatically peg them
as super-lover; it doesn't necessarily work that way.

	I'm not saying this is bad; in spite of all the drawbacks, for some 
people at some times, it's just what they need.  The difficulty lies in 
deciding who and when; and then in being honest enough and strong enough 
to handle the possible emotional wrench.

	All together now:

	"I need a lover who won't drive me crazy,
	Someone to thrill me and then go away..."
-- 
Rsk the Wombat
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